Something has been on my mind and I’ve got to get it out. I’m not venting, per se; but I am releasing a little pressure (which is actually venting) and sharing just a bit of it. First off, I am tie-yerd! This pandemic is on my nerves and exacerbating everything else that get on my … Continue reading MIND YOUR BUSINESS.
You ever read something and be like, ‘wait a minute… that don’t make no sense!’ Well, that was my reaction when reading this passage. Like so many others, I’ve read this several times before, and I saw the apparent contradiction, but I just let it be. The way my faith compels me to approach scripture … Continue reading SHARE THE WEIGHT, BUT CARRY YOUR OWN FREIGHT
As I write this, my wife Jamila and I are less than 36 hours from welcoming our third (and final) child, Khalil, to our family. We’ve got two boys, Kingston (9) and Kendrick (1.8), and we won’t be trying for a girl. On the advice of someone more seasoned than us, we’ve decided to accept … Continue reading NEW KIND OF LOVE
Imprints are impressions. They aren’t necessarily tangible and you can’t always quite put your finger on them sometimes. When you encounter people, you’re left feeling a certain way or another. When people encounter you, they’re left feeling some kind of way too!
Don’t leave me! Don’t leave me! I promise this isn’t about what you think it is. For as long as I can remember, Proverbs 31 has been used to teach about the “wife of noble character.” In fairness, that’s what verses 10-31 are about. tIt’s a good thing. It’s a great model to follow! But there are directives for men in here that tend to get overlooked.
The story of the paralyzed man being healed does not expressly state that these men who carried him were his friends. We come to this conclusion because of what they cared about; and consequently, what they couldn’t have cared less about. Well how do you know what they did or did not care about? Funny you should ask. There’s a simple axiom that explains it all: “Actions speak louder than words.”
The song Ex-Factor isn’t quite the romance any of us truly desires to have. This is more of an it’s complicated/situation-ship saga. Regardless of our track record or current relationship status, many of us fancy ourselves relationship experts. Often, it seems those who should be doing the most listening are actually the ones doing the most talking. Nonetheless, this song paints the picture of a relationship that most of us would rather not find ourselves on the non-reciprocated end of.
Everyone knows about love languages. I see it all the time, on Twitter… people proclaiming their love language. Insisting theirs makes the most sense. Suggesting there’s got to be something wrong with people whose love language is that one, or this other one. Some people have made up love languages too. Like, wings. Wings is not one of the options. Stop it. Lol (wings are good, tho)
For some, words are not enough to signal a new direction. Several social media posts get reposted with screenshots of previous words, articles, or accusations accompanied by two simple words, phrased as a question: “This you?" It seems necessary to remind people of their worst when they were trying to be better—to be their best.
As humans, we are homogeneous creatures. We are naturally drawn towards and prefer to be with other people who are like us. I’m Black. I like being around Black people. Quite frankly, it feels safer. But just because it’s most comfortable does not mean it is right to live my life trying to avoid people who aren’t like me. We have to move ourselves out of what is comfortable in order to have any meaningful relational development with people who aren’t just like us.